You're suffering more than you need to. But not for the reason you think.

Most of us have been taught that suffering is the enemy--something to overcome, optimize away, or transcend. We fight our grief, battle our anxiety, chase perfectionism, and burn ourselves out trying to prevent pain. The irony? This fight is what creates most of our suffering.

What if the real problem isn't your pain--it's your resistance to it?

Drawing on 2,500 years of Buddhist wisdom and modern psychology, Suffering Is Not The Enemy reveals the hidden mechanism that amplifies your pain into prolonged suffering. Through intimate group dialogues with real people navigating grief, anxiety, perfectionism, and burnout, Buddhist teacher Tenzin Arlo Cole shows you how to transform your relationship with difficulty--not by transcending it, but by turning toward it.

This isn't about toxic positivity or spiritual bypassing. It's about practical, lived freedom: learning to work with your mind in ways that actually work.

The practices are simple. The results are profound. And the path is always available--even right now, in this very moment.


Suffering Is Not The Enemy: Why You're Suffering More Than You Need To--and What Actually Works, Tenzin Arlo Cole and Jeff Ofstedahl, Paperback, 208 Pages, $13.99

Born in 1962 to a Western psychologist mother and Tibetan refugee father, Tenzin Arlo Cole spent his life standing at the crossroads of analytical science and ancient contemplative wisdom. After nearly a decade in a monastic community in Dharamshala, where he took vows and received the name "Tenzin," he returned to North America to bring Buddhist philosophy into living rooms, community centers, and corporate spaces rather than traditional monasteries. Known for his grounded presence, subtle humor, and the way he "makes silence feel alive,", he continues to live simply, offering intimate teachings that bridge East and West, modern psychology and timeless practice, thought and stillness.